Should Oprah have had children and a "husband" would she still have been the powerhouse she is?
The role of wife and mother, and professional is exceptionally demanding. And it often makes me question if in fact we were built to do all of them simultaneously or if we are to choose a path and follow it with singleness of purpose.
After a 8 or 9 hour day of "hustling" to build your legacy and wealth, how much do you really and truly have left mentally and emotionally to give to a toddler, or teenager?
After dealing with clients all day and often times employers or employees with varying personalities what tolerance do we have for a man coming home after facing the same?
Yet many women do this....and are exhausted as hell!!!
Did we burn our bras for this?
The conspiracy theorist in me says that feminism was a plot of a man to get women out into the world so that they would inevitably spend less money, work less hard, all while making us feel empowered.
And we shaved our armpits and put on those high heels, burned the bras and hopped into the high powered male arena making less and getting less respect, like good girls, and still have to come home and cook his animal carcasses and take care of the house and the kids alone because that's still " a woman's job".......Priceless!
Dare I say that the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, but the world is asking for us to rock less and less and work more and more. Taking our Primary focus away from the home and our loved ones.
In my miseducation the aim was to "BE INDEPENDENT" "BUY YOUR OWN" "HAVE A CAREER"and at the same time be a lady worthy of a man's affection and a keeper of his home.
But wait a minute....Are women not already making a man's life work and purpose a little easier by not only being a wife and mother,but by going out and working so he doesn't need a 2 - 3 job hustle or a conglomerate, to make life run smoothly in the household? So why am I to be a lady and play down my success to feed a man's ego and then put on high heels and serve steak and a smile with MAC lipgloss and feathered hair? Am I not logically too damn tired after being a man and woman all in one day?
For this reason I now know that the new education for our daughters should be to:
1.) Know thyself.
2.) Follow your passion with wholeheartedness
and if love should "find you" along the way.....
3.) Make sure that
The trickle down effect -
- Men will be trained to "make themselves worthy of a wife and to take care of a family" and not vice versa.
- In the family partnership it is no surprise that the man wins big time...so who is the prize possession? And who should be worthy of that? And who should "study to show themselves approved"?
- My dream is to hear a young boy being fussed out that he should get it right if he ever wants to find a wife.
But you don't hear me though.....
I am a traditional woman at heart. I love the "hustle" of creative ideas being bought to fruition and having projects seen to completion, networking and being successful, but when it becomes a shackle because you are doing it out of NEED to provide, and not because it needs you and begs you to manifest it, and you love every minute of it, then we have just kicked ourselves and our own daughters in the butt, forcing them into an "independent" lifestyle ill-prepared..When the love for family and taking care of home tires them and hustle comes to a grinding halt... hubby still has enough life on his status bar to stay on the grind. Fair?? NEGATIVE.
Want your daughters to be independent? Teach them...
THAT: "should love scrape its knees on the floors of life chasing after you and you (our little girls) oblige it....do not be afraid to ask..'what are you bringing to the table?, because if you want pretty little dinners on yours when you get off, I'm gonna need you to afford me the time to follow my passions and still have the time to be happy doing that for you.